Arjen and Henk
Dear Birth Mother
Hello! We are Henk & Arjen from a small city in the middle of The Netherlands called Nijkerk. Our biggest wish is to become a family. The Netherlands is a country located in Western Europe. Because adoption is very difficult in our country, we are grateful to be able to adopt in the United States! Having a family is something we agreed on in the very first month of our relationship. We were both so happy to find out we have the same beliefs and family goals. We are convinced that we can give your child a safe and stable life.
We want your child to have the opportunity to be the best version of him – or herself. We will do everything in our power to provide school (study), sports, hobbies, vacations and fun. In this profile we would like to show you the values in our lives and we truly hope that we can meet the wishes that you have for your child.
Arjen and Henk
About Us: We met each other almost five years ago on Tinder. After two weeks of app contact we finally met for the first time at Henk’s place. It was very exciting. After only 10 minutes it was comfortable and we had a very nice first date where we talked the whole night. The first date was so nice that we knew we would be soulmates for life! The next day we had our 2nd date and the rest is history. After a couple of months Arjen asked Henk to be his boyfriend and he said YES! A month later we moved in together and after a few years we bought our first place together, a house with a big garden.
We want to form a family where love, attention, time and security are key. We have a loving relationship and we know for sure that we are going to grow old together. We make each other laugh, we are open and can talk about everything. We are willing to do everything for each other, and we will do the same for our future children. We both love to enjoy little things in life, like a walk on the beach, going out for dinner or seeing a movie. We definitely can’t wait to share these things with your child!
For You…as for keeping in contact, we will meet your wishes. Every child has the right to know where he or she comes from. We will tell your child about his or her birth parent(s) and culture in the most respectful way. This will be the silver lining throughout their upbringing. If the greatest wish in our life comes true, your child will grow up in a warm loving family. They will have love and attention not only from us, but also from our friends and family, who can’t wait to welcome your child into their hearts. This is really important to us as we had the same in our youth.
About Henk – written by Henk: Hi, I am Henk, and I was born and raised in Nijkerk. I studied Social Work and work as a youth care worker. Before this I worked with homeless families and I was a guide for women who were forced into prostitution. As a social worker, I witness a lot of kids whom, unfortunately, can’t grow up with their parents for numerous reasons. Being in this line of work increased my certainty with wanting to have a large family of my own! In my job, I experience the importance of open communication towards children and I will always be open about their roots and culture. Once we are back home with the new baby, I will be taking care of them everyday for the first 6 months. After those 6 months I will start working again for 2 or 3 days a week. When I am working my Mother (baby’s grandmother) will take care of the baby.
More About Henk – by Arjen: Henk wants to contribute to society. For me, this really reflects how he stands in life. He is loving and caring not only for me, but he also goes that extra mile for his friends and family. He’s always there for everyone and he wants to make sure everybody is happy. Henk never gives up. While he was working full time he also graduated with a bachelor’s degree in Social Work. He is open and honest about the good and the bad things in life. Our biggest wish in life is to start a family and I can’t wait to raise a child with Henk by my side.
About Arjen – written by Arjen: Hi, I am Arjen and I grew up in a small town approximately 30 minutes away from Amsterdam. I come from a large family. My parents have been together since forever. My mom gave birth to quadruplets! That’s right, I am a quadruplet and I have three sisters! We grew up in a city called Ede and I have only good memories from my childhood.
I’ve worked for a social housing cooperative for five years now. My job is to ensure that people with a minimum income have somewhere to live. This job gives me a lot of satisfaction, because I believe that everyone should have a nice and safe place to live. I was raised with a sense of respect towards everyone and our surroundings and I can’t wait to teach our future child the same. When we are back home with the new baby, I will start working again after a couple of weeks taking care of the baby together with Henk. I will work again for 4 days a week with 1 day off to spend time with the family.
More About Arjen – by Henk: Arjen is the love of my life! Arjen is sweet, caring, really helpful and he does everything for the people he loves. Arjen has more energy than four 10-year olds put together. He is always in for something fun to do: exploring city’s, cultures, food or just being with friends and family. Arjen is going to be a sweet father who will show his kid(s) the world. He will give his child all the love and attention he or she needs. Arjen is a family man, we both are. He is very open and is able to speak about his feelings and emotions. This makes him a beautiful and loveable person.
Our Family & Friends
We were both raised in large families and grew up with a lot of love. That has taught us two important things: The importance of having a good relationship with your family and how to give and receive love. In our life, our families play a major role. Your baby will grow up in a great loving and large family surrounded with love from (great) grandfathers and (great) grandmothers, uncles and aunts, nephews and nieces. We think family is very important and we want to share ours with your child.
Henk: My whole family lives in Nijkerk. My parents Jan and Noos are married for almost 40 years! I have an older sister, Marieke and two younger brothers, Arjan and Niels. Marieke is married to Herwin and they have two children. Arjan is with Lysanne and they have two children (almost three with a baby on the way!) My youngest brother Niels is 29 years old and still single.
We are a really close family, the kids play together and we celebrate everything; from Christmas to graduations. We see my family several times a week having dinners together or just a visit with coffee. We also see the grandma and granddad often!
Arjen: My parents are from Ede a town nearby Nijkerk and have been married for 42 years! I have three sisters the same age as me because we are quadruplets! My sister, Ilona, is married to Dirk, they have three children. Tamara is married to Jacco and they have two children. Carina is with Benito, and their son was recently born.
Our families are very important to us. We are always there for each other, day and night. Our nephews and nieces come by a lot to stay or eat together.
Our Home & Community
We live in Nijkerk, a small city in the middle of the Netherlands (Holland.) Our house was built in 1900 and has so much charm and character. Our house is very important to us because we have renovated all of it together. It has four bedrooms and a large kitchen where we love to cook. Our house is close to the city center, just a five minute walk to many shops and supermarkets, the school (where our nephew and nieces attend) parks and etc. Our family and friends also live nearby.
Because Nijkerk is a small town, we know many people and everyone knows each other. Our neighbors are very social. Many children live on our street, but there are also older people who are a kind of like grandparents for the neighborhood children.
The Netherlands scores very high in citizen happiness. There is a high quality of living and a very good educational system. The Netherlands is very tolerant and a multicultural society and cultures. There a is “freedom of speech” culture in the Netherlands.
Our Dog Bo: Our smallest family member is our dog, Bo. She is a seven-year-old French bulldog and a big teddy bear. Bo goes to the beach or the forest with us every day. She loves to play with our nephews and nieces and loves cuddling for hours in the evening! Bo is a friend to everyone and very important to us. She is always happy to be with us and we are with her. Bo will make a great companion to your child!
Thank You: We want to say thank you for taking the time to read our profile and consider us as adoptive parents to your child. Hopefully you got a glimpse into our lives and are able to see that we are ready to start a family through adoption in the United States. Our entire family and many friends cannot wait for that moment either! We are sure that you are able to make the right choice for your baby and we hope that we can meet your wishes. You are and, and always will be, the mother. You are irreplaceable and we will do everything to give you a special place in our lives and the baby’s life. Finally, we want to wish you strength and wisdom and to know that we support your decision, whatever that will be.
- Arjen & Henk