Brendan and Noah
Dear Birth Mother
Hi! We are Brendan & Noah. We’re so excited to grow our little family! We have been dreaming about becoming parents and we’re looking forward to how our life will change with this blessing. We have decided that we want to adopt and have been on the same page, talking about it since early on in our relationship. We are choosing adoption because we know there so many children in the world who need a loving home. We want to provide that loving home for your child. We feel ready and have so much to give. We are hoping for an open adoption if it’s in the best interest for our child because we want to offer the most stability and loving support possible. Thanks so much for taking the time to read this, consider us and get to know us a little better.
Our Story: After six years together, we’re still best friends. We have been married for two years and we’re so glad to celebrate this anniversary… because we can’t remember when our first date was! We met through OkCupid and even though it sounds corny – it was love at first sight. We had so much fun and so much in common that our casual first lunch turned into a romantic dinner. Our marriage is strong because we can be ourselves, always make time for each other and support each other’s passions. We both have wicked senses of humor, we love making each other laugh and being ridiculous together. We value honesty, open communication, compassion and trust. We also connected on our shared desire to have a family someday. We know that having kids is going to be a whirlwind and an adventure but we’re not afraid as long as we have each other.
Our Travels: We love to travel and go on romantic trips together. Traveling expands us and gives us a greater perspective of the world around us. For our first wedding anniversary we went to London and Paris and it was just as magical as we had been dreaming. The highlight of that trip was the Louvre but really all the breathtaking museums and culture. We also ate our way through Paris, spent our mornings eating buttery croissants and looking out at the Eiffel Tower. We want to continue traveling with our children and giving them the same opportunities to explore other cultures and expand their horizons. We want to expose them to art, theater, a variety of foods, music and books so that they can better discover their place in the world.
- We dream of being the kinds of parents our kids can count on for unconditional love and support.
- When we think about how we want to be the best parents we can be, we know we want to be consistent, firm and loving.
- We want to be supportive not hovering, authoritative not authoritarian and provide a healthy, stable and structured home environment.
- We want to encourage a fully integrated adoption identity and we believe this will come through an open adoption as long as it’s in the best interest of our child.
Meet Noah by Brendan: My favorite thing about my husband Noah is his sense of humor. He’s usually making jokes, sometimes even terrible ones, but I love that he’s always making the effort to make me laugh. When I met Noah I could picture us just happy and laughing together for the rest of our lives. Noah is going to be great father someday, I know because I’ve seen how great he is with kids. He was teaching ballet at the school my dear friend’s daughter was studying at when we met. Since that time he’s gone on to teach kids ballet as well as swimming while he continued his education and now he has succeeded in becoming a high school English teacher. Anything Noah sets his mind to he can accomplish. When we met he was working two jobs and putting himself through school and I got to watch him follow through on his goals and achieve his dreams. I know we can do anything together, including raising a family, because I have such a wonderful partner to count on.
Meet Brendan by Noah: Brendan is the kindest, most compassionate person I know. Over the years, I have come to see the many ways he puts the needs of loved ones before his own. The way he gives each of our pets individualized attention and affection each day and seeks them out to comfort them when they have acted out and are feeling ashamed. How he provides emotional support to our family and friends, offering them a sounding board for interpersonal issues without always giving direct advice. Listening to the way he anticipates reading the children to sleep, making them delicious healthy meals, and teaching them to cook when they’re older fills my heart because I know he will imbue them with the same warmth and kindness I love about him. Brendan makes time for the ones he loves and intuits what they need instead of focusing on what they want in the moment.
Our Home and Community
We feel so lucky to live in the Bay Area and just moved into our wonderful new home in the suburbs of Diablo Valley. We love our new pool and look forward to teaching our children how to swim, it’s something we’re really excited to do together and Noah used to teach infant swimming professionally! Brendan is over the moon about having his dream kitchen, as a homemaker he spends a lot of the day cooking and baking but we’ve never really had much space before this new home. Our new home is also conveniently located right next to our favorite hiking spot, where we love to take Charlie off leash. We’re also really looking forward to Halloween in our new home since it’s our annual tradition to put on a haunted house in our garage! We’re also lucky to be just a quick walk 3 blocks from the neighborhood Elementary School.
Say Hello to Our Pets: We have two cats and a big dog! The animals are just as excited as we are to enjoy our new home because they have much more space!
- Frankie is our orange tabby and Posticker is our brown tabby. They are littermates and little rascals who love to play!
- Charlie is our big German Shepherd-Labrador mixed dog. He has tons of energy but also knows when to be gentle like with cats and kids.
The People We Love
We’re both so lucky to have large extended groups of family and close friends. Bren’s parents and Noah’s parents have big family get togethers of 40 for most of the high holidays! We’re both so lucky that our families are from and still live in the Bay Area, which was one of the biggest considerations in our choosing to live here and remain close. Noah’s twin sister and her partner Brian also make big trips to come join for the holidays here so we get that special time together.
We know that it takes a village to raise children… and that’s why we are forever grateful to have so many loving extended family members to help us provide as much stability, guidance and support possible when the time comes. Many of our closest friends have started families of their own now too, so we have multi-generations in our close community to surround ourselves with love.
Our Favorite Tradition: Every year we have a family tradition of putting on a big homemade Haunted House in our garage benefitting a canned food drive. Our parents and dear friends help us to host and chaperone (we’ve had 2 years with 1000 kids attending!) while we set up life-size animatronics, props, lighting, sounds and spooky backdrops. The whole thing is really a big hoot, and probably why we both love Halloween so much. Brendan’s mom used to put on Haunted Houses every year for charity through her work in the state and when she retired we inherited a big spooky wonderful family tradition!
To You We Promise:
- To love, care for and protect this child as our own
- To try our best and be our best everyday
- To offer stability, consistency and healthy structure
- To teach respect, honesty and kindness
- To guide with empathy and offer understanding
- To show integrity by living our values
Thanks for your consideration and giving us the opportunity to share our hearts with you. We can’t wait to grow our family and someday be blessed with a beautiful child. As parents we pray that we can offer the same unconditional loving support our own families continue to offer us to this day. In addition to a safe and happy home we want to offer our kids the kinds of wonderful opportunities our families offered us, to get to see the world, explore their passions and dreams.
We hope to have an open relationship with you and your family if it’s in the best interest of our child. We want to foster a loving supportive relationship that you can choose to continue and be an important part of our child’s life. Your gift to us of making our family possible is so special to us and you will always be important and part of our family. Our child will always feel wanted, loved and supported.