Chris & Steve

Chris and Steve

Hello! We’re Chris and Steve from San Francisco, California.

We count ourselves lucky to have found each other and have created a life together, and now we can’t wait to welcome a child into our home. We are so grateful for your courage in considering adoption and for taking the time to get to know us.

We have experience with adoption on both sides of our family. And even though we don’t know you or your specific dreams for your child yet, we know that even considering adoption shows your strength as a person and the love you have for your child. Being parents together has been our dream since the day we met, and we are excited to start our family through adoption.


Our story begins 20 years ago, in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. We had both started a new job at the same office (we’re both architects) and hadn’t met one another until one momentous day at a design meeting, where we started sketching ideas together for a new project. With a wink and a glance across the room, a spark ignited, and we haven’t looked back since!


We both absolutely love being architects! Chris had the great fortune of collaborating with Steve Jobs on the design of Apple Computer stores all around the world, from New York to London to Tokyo. Steve works on great buildings for communities, including city halls, libraries, and beautiful urban parks.

After many years working on different projects, we are working together again, where our projects keep us close and will allow us greater flexibility to work from home while we care for our future child.


From the start, the two of us connected over a love of the great outdoors. One of our first dates was a day long canoe trip down a peaceful river in Pennsylvania. We’ve gone backpacking in the mountains of Italy where Chris’s grandfather was born, snowshoeing in the Sierras, and whitewater rafting just a few miles from our weekend house in California’s Gold Country.

Traveling is really important to us and is a way to learn more about ourselves, while we learn about others. We are lucky to have friends around the world to make our journeys more meaningful and connected to the local culture. We have visited our close friends in Spain, Chris’s college friend in Malaysia, and the hometown of our friends in South Africa.

We also appreciate the simple pleasures of quiet days at home. Chris grew up in a home where the kitchen was the heart of activity, and he can easily spend an entire day in the kitchen whipping up a delicious meal. Steve loves to curl up with a good book by the fire on a cold winter day, while listening to his favorite albums from our vintage collection.

Chris and Steve

Meet Chris

I grew up in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, as the youngest of three children. We were a close-knit family, and my earliest memories were spending time at home with two big sisters, who doted on me. I was one lucky kid!

Music is a big part of my life. I had the great fortune of performing with the Pittsburgh Boychoir, which afforded me the opportunity to travel across the country, singing in places like Mt Rushmore and the Gateway Arch. I also played the saxophone in jazz bands through high school and college.

I loved spending time with my grandpa, an engineer who taught me about gyroscopes, puzzles and train travel. My memories of riding the streetcar downtown with him and exploring the city together left a strong, magical impression upon me. His curiosity inspired me to discover the world, and to eventually study engineering at Princeton and go on to graduate school at Harvard for a degree in architecture.

My parents taught me to find beauty in nature. As a kid, we’d go camping together. To this day, a peaceful hike in the woods remains my favorite way to unwind, and it’s one of the many ways that Steve and I connect.

More About Chris, as told by Steve
Chris is my true love and my best friend, all rolled up into one sweet package.

There are so many things I love about him!
• His smile is contagious, and he always knows how to put me in the best mood!
• He is such an incredible listener with adults and children. His eyes shine when he is inspired; he lets out a big laugh when something cracks him up; and is attentive when his friends need him most.
• He is a big goofball with a great imagination, and kids take to him right away. He makes up his own bedtime stories for our nephews, involving magical time-traveling kangaroos. • Chris loves to plan our incredible adventures. He will make sure that our future child will have great vacations!
• He loves to sing and play music. I get to enjoy my own personal performances at home, where he often makes up his own jingles that make me laugh!
• He is sweetly emotional, and will often cry during movies and TV shows… especially This is Us.
• I love his thoughtful spontaneity! When I’m having a bad day, he’ll take me on a surprise date that is just the recipe to put me in a better mood!

5 things that make Chris happy:
• Staying up late on a warm summer evening and looking up at the stars with Steve
• Hanging upside down on a gravity-defying roller coaster
• Learning foreign languages (I studied abroad in France and Germany)
• Swimming in the ocean for hours on end!
• Riding the subway in a new city

Meet Chris

Meet Steve

I grew in Tampa, Florida with my parents and younger sister. Big memories include wonderful car vacations with my parents in the Appalachian mountains, and weekends spent with our grandparents who lived across town.

My parents valued education, and sent us to nurturing Catholic schools. The experience taught me to work hard and to value friendship: I met close friends from high school whom I am still in touch with on a weekly basis to this day. I am grateful for the sacrifices my parents made to offer me a fantastic education that opened many doors for me later on.

When I was 13, we moved about five miles to a house my parents had built. I remember getting on the roof to help him hammer in the roof joists, and the satisfaction that came from being a part of building our house. This experience inspired me to eventually go to college to study architecture at Carnegie-Mellon in Pittsburgh.

While I never learned to play an instrument, I have always had an appreciation for music. In college, I became a licensed DJ, and spun records on radio shows and amassed a huge collection of vinyl, ranging from indie rock to classical. Music is something that both Chris and I enjoy together, and even now I continue to collect records and enjoy discovering new artists.

More About Steve, as told by Chris
From the moment I met Steve, I knew that he was “the one.” His love and affection radiate through his beautiful eyes. It is such a pleasure to be greeted by his loving glance every morning!

There are so many beautiful dimensions to his personality.
• He is the most curious and inquisitive person I know. The world is his classroom, and he’s always eager to discover new things about the people he meets and the places he travels. I know that he will teach and inspire our future child to find beauty and wonder in everyday things.
• He is my rock. He pushes me to do things I never thought possible, whether it’s gathering the courage to climb the rocky face of a mountain, or venturing into a hole-in-the-wall restaurant in a foreign country.
• Steve loves to make lists! He will ensure that our lives run smoothly. I can already imagine the markerboard listing all sorts of activities we’ll plan as a family.
• Steve is a remarkable teacher. His patience allows him to teach children things as they would understand them, rather than from an “adult” viewpoint. I see this every time he talks to our nephews.
• Steve is an incredibly talented photographer and the walls of our homes are filled with his beautiful photographs. Since the first time he picked up a camera in college, he has taken to photography as a way to capture his unique observations of the world around him.
• He is full of creativity! You can be sure there will be plenty of paper and colored pencils nearby for your child to draw from their imagination!

5 things that make Steve happy:
• Seeing Chris smile
• Decorating the Christmas tree while listening to classic carols
• Enjoying a beautiful sunrise at our weekend country house (with roosters crowing and cows mooing in the distance)
• Taking in the sights and sounds of San Francisco during a morning jog
• Popcorn and movie night!

Meet Steve

Our Family and Friends

Chris’s Family
Chris has a relatively big family: two sisters, 10 cousins, and lots of aunts and uncles, and plenty of fun family gatherings. Chris and his sisters, Beth and Susie, all enjoy long-distance running, and holidays often involve everyone getting together for a “Turkey Trot” or a “Jingle Jog”. We enjoy watching our nephew play college football at the Rose Bowl, going to the zoo with our niece, and learning how to play Minecraft from our 10 year old nephew.

Steve’s Family
By comparison, Steve’s family is small and close-knit. His mom and his sister Kathy, along with her family, all still live in his hometown of Tampa, Florida. We try to see them twice a year, and get to go on incredible adventures with our nephew to the splash park, Legoland, and the warm Floridian beaches. At the end of the day, we come home to Grandma C’s famous cookies and board game night!

Our Friends
We are fortunate to have a great network of friends in San Francisco, and we have learned so much from their experiences raising families in the city. Our friends Chris and Kevin, who live close, recently welcomed twin baby boys through open adoption. We look forward to spending time together with our families.

One of our greatest joys is spending quality time with friends and family at home. Our house is perfect for entertaining families, and we’ll often have them over for a weekend of board games, picnics, and just hanging out.

Our Family and Friends

Our Home and Closing Thoughts

We are very fortunate to have two places we call home, one in the heart of San Francisco and another in the California countryside. Your child will enjoy the best of both city and country life.

Our home in the City
We live in a beautiful two-bedroom home along a tree-lined street on San Francisco’s Nob Hill. Our home has beautiful wood details, lots of natural light, and a cozy fireplace for snuggling up on long winter nights. Our nextdoor neighbors are a couple with a newborn child, and we look forward to play dates with them!

Although we live in a big city, our neighborhood has the charm of a small town, and we can walk anywhere we need to go. We have a wonderful little grocery store around the corner, and we are just a few blocks away from a beautiful park with a playground, and the local elementary school. We even have the pleasure of walking 15 minutes to work every morning. San Francisco is a perfect place to raise a child, with so many beautiful parks, beaches and museums to explore!

Our home in the Country
Seven years ago, we bought our weekend retreat home on 3 acres of land, with a panoramic view of the Sierras. Our neighbors are deer, wild turkeys, and coyotes. Here we enjoy nature to its fullest: we have a vegetable garden and fruit trees, we enjoy lots of beautiful hikes in the forest, and visit the local farms for fresh eggs and homemade berry pies. We can’t wait to share this peaceful slice of California.

A child growing up in our house can look forward to:
• A really good education (many of our relatives are teachers)
• Delicious dinners made from vegetables picked from our garden
• Cutting down our own 12-foot-tall Christmas Tree at the local farm
• Board game night!
• Going gold panning near our country house
• Arts and Crafts projects!


Thank you for taking the time to let us share our story with you. We can’t wait to start a family, and we are so incredibly grateful that you are considering us as your child’s adoptive fathers.

If you end up choosing us, we promise to raise your baby with unconditional love and support.

Our Home and Closing Thoughts