Cortney

Dear Birth Mother

Thank for learning about our family! I deeply respect you and your decision to consider adoption. My hope is we will get to know each other on this journey and, whatever the outcome, I am grateful for your consideration.

My heart bursts with love and gratitude for my son, Paxton, who I adopted from birth in 2018. We’re both hopeful to expand our family again through adoption!

For as long as I can remember, I wanted to build my family through adoption. Adoption creates the opportunity for me to offer a home full of love and support. My heart and mind have expanded in so many incredible ways from the sacred connection formed when building family in this way. My wish is to provide both the environment and the experiences for my children that will honor their adoption stories and inspire them to be brave, curious and kind.

Dear Birth Mother

A Little About Me

I’ve both forged my own path and have also received tremendous support from incredible friends along the way. I’m a recruiting leader in technology, which is a career that has given me the gift of constantly learning – a passion of mine. I was born curious and with a sense of adventure, and I dive into everything I do with my whole heart.

I grew up in central California with an older brother and a hard-working, single mother. My mother is my rock and my biggest fan. I knew she would be by my side when I began my adoption journey. In so many ways, she is my wing-woman.

I’m a huge live music fan and contribute to San Francisco Jazz and non-profits for the arts in New Orleans, Louisiana. I simply cannot imagine life without music! I took Paxton to his first live concert (Foo Fighters!) when he was two weeks old, and he’s been to Jazz Fest in New Orleans. We love to travel and go everywhere together!

I’m loyal and a fierce defender of dignity, tolerance and respect for others. I say hard things even when it scares me. I listen openly and deeply. I’m blessed with incredibly supportive and fun friends. They have unique stories, diverse perspectives, and come from all walks of life.

On Giving Back: The life I live is so much the result of what others have done for me that I am deeply committed to a life of service for others. For seven years I’ve served on the board of a non-profit that provides access to clean water and sanitation. And for 10 years I’ve served as a Wish Granter for the Make-A-Wish Foundation, granting wishes to children with life-threatening illness. An important part of my personal story is that I was also a Make-A-Wish recipient at the age of 15, when I was diagnosed and treated for cancer. Thirty-one years in remission, and I never take a single moment for granted. I stay healthy and balanced because it is important not only to take good care of myself but be a role model for the children in my family.

Meet Paxton: I adopted Paxton August 2018 and he has taught me more about love, patience, presence, and wonder than any other experience I’ve had. My heart burst from the first phone call I had with his amazing birth mother. Every day with Paxton is a gift. The depth of love I feel is just impossible for me to describe. From the moment I arrived at the hospital, his birth mother and I embraced and spent hours talking about our hopes and dreams for this little one. The ongoing connection we have with Pax’s birth mom is something I cherish. I always want Paxton to know the truth about his history, culture and biological family. I respect his birth mom deeply for her love and support of Paxton. We also have an open relationship with Pax’s birth uncle and grandmother.

Paxton is so excited to be a big brother! Paxton is charming, energetic (he’s climbing everything these days!) and the best hugger I know. He’s naturally social and caring when he interacts with children and even cares for a little baby doll in his classroom. Our favorite nighttime routine is telling stories about real moments in his day or in his life. He remembers everything and wants to hear these stories again and again.

Pax’s Favorites

  • Any kind of stuffed animal
  • Stories! Whether in books or just ones we make up on the spot
  • Hamburgers and fries (he insists on ordering himself)
  • Painting and coloring
  • Bath time!

 

A Little About Me

Meet “Nay Nay” My Mother

My mother, Darla, is retired and lives with me full time. She is the most energetic person I know! She’s run half-marathons and loves to cook. We call her “Nay Nay” and her cookies are in high demand in our neighborhood. She is a devoted grandmother who takes care of Paxton while I work. She has committed herself to help support me as I grow my family. As I write this she and Pax are outside jumping on a trampoline!

My Travels and Adventures: Every time I go somewhere or do something new I learn a ton about the world, people and myself. In 2017 I set off on a six-week adventure to Africa. The entire experience was extraordinary, but the main thing was deciding to start the journey to become a mother. I love to travel and have visited more than 20 countries. I’ve even dove with sharks without a cage! I saw Prince perform two months before he passed away, just him and his piano. Ultimately, I believe life is about experiences, not possessions. When an opportunity to have an incredible experience presents itself, I’m all in!

 

Meet “Nay Nay” My Mother

My Home and Community

We recently moved from San Francisco to Sammamish, WA, which is about 30 minutes outside of Seattle. It is beautiful here! We live on nearly 4 acres of land next to a lake surrounded by trees. I bought my dream home here in Sammamish. It has 5 bedrooms and 5 bathrooms and huge front and back yards. I’m a big art fan and the house is full of color. I hung swings from the rafters! My mom and I joke that this is like a kid’s house that a couple of adults are lucky enough to live in. There’s fresh air, it’s safe and there are lots of families in the neighborhood. I’m close to parks, nature trails and a short drive to mountains and snow. We live next to a lake where I have a boat that we float around in during the summer.

My Pets: I have three cats that I adopted from a shelter about four years ago. They are ridiculously cute and fur balls of love. A mom and her two sons, named Mamacita, Uno and Dos. I also recently adopted a German Shepherd puppy who has grown to over 50 pounds in 3 months! His name is Dog E. and he’s a sweet addition to our family.

 

My Home and Community

On Parenting

I hope to parent in a way that inspires my children to be brave, curious, kind and responsible. I know children have the huge job of trying to understand the world around them and their place in it. My hope is to show up as a parent with patience and presence so that my children feel their significance, belonging and worthiness. I believe in supporting hands-on learning and balancing independence and trust with feedback and boundaries.

My Promise to Your Child:

  • My goal as a mother is to provide an environment of love, support, adventure, diverse community and opportunity for my children to realize their destiny, whatever that may be.
  • I will be a strong and loving role model.
  • I will provide an environment of kindness, safety and support that will allow your child to thrive.
  • I promise to honor your role in their life and share with them my deepest respect for you, your love and your courage in seeking adoption.
  • I promise to love your child with my whole heart for my entire life. My love and support has no boundary or age limit.

About My Tattoos: As you can see, I have some serious ink on my arms! The artist (“Uncle Shine”) is the biological uncle of my son and captures my journey to becoming a mother. I’ve saved space on my right arm hoping to continue the story as my family grows.

In Closing – Thank You: Thank you for learning more about me. You will find that I am open to all questions and I’ll answer directly and from the heart. I deeply appreciate and respect you, and hope you find the best outcome possible for yourself and your baby. I send all of my love and gratitude your way while you navigate this path.

On Parenting