Jay & Ryan
Hello from Jay & Ryan. We believe love makes a family.
Dear Birth Mother: We live in beautiful San Francisco, California and we are excited to start our own family through an open adoption. Ryan’s grandma was adopted and Jay’s best friends adopted two little ones. We feel humbled to keep the tradition going.
We both come from loving parents that taught us the values of support, trust, love, service, diversity, hard work and respect. We want to pass those values down to our future child in a nurturing environment. And, we want to have lots of fun growing together as a family!
How We Met: Our relationship started when we met at a local café in Laguna Beach, California about 9 years ago. We happened to be in the same line waiting to order food and started chatting. By the end of the conversation, we had exchanged phone numbers and made arrangements to meet again soon for our first coffee date!
Eight years later, back in Laguna Beach, we were married with the support of 300 of our family and closest friends, overlooking the ocean during sunset. We know those same beautiful and loving family and friends will also provide a huge amount of support to us and our future child.
“The Safety Dad” – A little about Ryan by Jay: Ryan has always wanted to be a father. During a parent teacher conference in 4th grade, while other boys told the class they wanted to be astronauts, firemen and carpenters, Ryan knew he wanted to be a dad!
Ryan is a nurturer. He is a great listener and people feel Ryan’s empathy and warm heart when they meet him. I say that Ryan will be the “safety dad” in our family because he always watches out for the well being of others.
Ryan will make sure that your child is protected. In fact, he is already baby proofing our home and is Child CPR Certified! I can imagine Ryan comforting your child every night by singing, which is one of his favorite activities. I am so excited to raise our child with him!
For Work: Ryan works at Google where he manages architects and designers to create inspiring places to work. Ryan has a degree in Urban Planning and glows with happiness when he is wandering around his favorite place in the world- New York City. I can imagine Ryan smiling with our future baby on the carousel in Central Park when we visit.
Ryan’s company, Google, will let him take a full 3 months off of work to be with the baby when we bring them home from the hospital. He plans to be an at home dad and work part time to make sure that your child is safe and nurtured.
“The Fun Dad” – A Little About Jay by Ryan: Jay is the most generous and loyal person I know. He always shows up when a friend or family member is in need. When the going gets tough, he stands strong and never leaves your side. He makes phone calls, sends flowers and makes people feel loved.
Jay makes me smile every time he walks in the door to our home. Whenever he’s around, people have a ton of fun. I enduringly say that Jay will be the “fun dad” in our family. I have no doubt that our future child will have one of the happiest childhoods ever. Jay will spend hours amazing our child with magic tricks that include finding hidden coins behind ears and jokingly pulling off the end of his thumb! Jay is excited to play peak-a-boo and make funny farm animal noises to entertain the baby!
For Work: Jay is also full of passion. I see it come through in his work, and I see it when he is helping others. Jay works at Apple and inspires people to be healthy with the help of technology. He motivates people to be the best they can be. Jay loves all aspects of fitness but especially surfing in Hawaii. Jays company, Apple, will let him take some time off when the baby is born.
Our Family & Friends
Both of our families come from large, simple and humble backgrounds. They are eager to provide a network of love for our future child. Most of Jay’s family lives in Oregon and some of them live in Mexico. Ryan’s family lives in Colorado and Iowa.
Ryan and Jay’s siblings have amazing children. One of them is a newborn so we imagine our child growing up with and playing with their cousins. Even though they live in different states, we usually visit family about four times a year. One of the most exciting holidays in Ryan’s family is Easter. The night before Easter, the parents create clues for a scavenger hunt. In the morning, the kids follow the clues that eventually lead to their Easter baskets that are packed with treats. We are excited to continue this tradition with our future child!
Many of our friends have their own families, and we are excited to experience the wonder of raising kids together. A number of our close friends have adopted or surrogated one or more children to build their family, and we know they will provide us guidance, direction and advice on raising our future child. One of the families is Jay’s best friends who have two adopted children and live nearby. We are excited to swap stories and have our adopted children play together.
Our Home and Closing Thoughts
Our Home and Neighborhood: We live in a beautiful new apartment in San Francisco, CA with lots of windows overlooking the city skyline.
When Ryan’s nephew visits, he loves pointing out the cable cars, fire trucks, taxis, dogs and people that he sees on the streets below. Whole Foods is on the ground level of our building, so we know our future baby will eat healthy baby food and grow up strong!
Our home is the perfect place to raise a child. The baby’s room will be spacious and have lots of windows and sunlight and we have an outdoor patio where we can play. There are other children that live in our building, and we are excited to set up play dates with them!
We plan to have a fun birthday party for our future child every year in our home. We imagine lots of gifts, balloons, streamers, friends, family and love! We plan to fly the grandparents in from Colorado and Oregon for the celebration.
We are very happy to live in and be surrounded by so much love and diversity in San Francisco. It is a beautiful place for people of all races and backgrounds.
In Closing: Thank you for taking the time to get to know us and learn about our dream to have a family through open adoption. We have a stable relationship that we know will last forever, and we have both always wanted a family. We believe that we’ll be able to provide an amazing home for your child that contains a good balance of every day real life experience and extraordinarily fun moments that will lead to a life time of happy memories if you take a leap of faith and choose us to parent your beautiful baby.
What dreams do you have for your child when he or she is born? Imagine the safe and fun home where your child will grow up. This is the home that we want to provide for your child. We want to surround him or her with two loving parents who have the emotional and financial stability to ensure that your child is loved, well taken care of, and given every opportunity to make the most of life.