Karl & Mary
Hello from Karl and Mary!
Dear Birthmother: We are so happy you are considering us. Thank you for giving us this opportunity to share our story with you!
We live in a small town in Eastern Pennsylvania. We knew that having biological children in our 40s would be challenging, and we were very lucky and happy to have Lukas. Being a parent has been the most natural and life changing experience for us.
After failed fertility treatments, we started talking to several couples who adopted. Encouraged by learning from their experiences, we decided to expand our family by adopting a child. We understand the magnitude of this decision for you and we are delighted you are taking the time to get to know us better.
About Us by Karl: To best describe us would be a moment out of “101 Dalmations”
When Mary’s flight was unexpectedly canceled, she took her Border collie mix, Kassie, for a walk in a park. Mary found herself face to face with another dog owner, me, who also had a Border collie mix, Eli. As the dogs made their acquaintance, we struck up an easy conversation. We had so much in common – we felt it was destiny.
We both took our dogs to this particular park on a daily basis, but at different times. I was working as a senior research scientist in diagnostic imaging and Mary was working in business development in diagnostic imaging. I am from Germany and Mary’s brother married a German and lives in Berlin. Mary had recently reached out to a local church for German lessons which was the church I attended for many years.
The coincidences did not stop there. We lived just five blocks from each other, knew the same people, dined at the same restaurants, travelled to many of the same places and are just nine days a part in age. That day in the park neither one of us asked for the other’s phone number, but three days later fate led us to the park again at the same time in the same spot. From that day on, we were inseparable.
After we visited Germany, where we spent time with my parents, childhood friends and Mary’s family; we decided relatively soon we wanted to have a child together. Mary was pregnant with our son, Lukas, soon thereafter.
Although we grew up on different continents, in different countries, we share the same values and similar ideas. We agree on parenting style and speak with one voice. We are both team players and, together, we form a strong team.
About Mary, By Mary: I grew up in Miami, Florida. I enjoyed playing outdoors, riding my bike, going to the beach & playing with neighborhood friends. I attended college at Florida State University. I have been in healthcare marketing for 10 years. My career allows me the flexibility to be at home more with our son, Lukas and will allow the same flexibility with our second child. With our son, Lukas, I enjoy the little things…going for walks, building forts and playing imaginary games, spending time at the library, and reading ALOT with him. The number #1 item on my list of favorite things to do is spending time with my family. We are a playful family and enjoy being together no matter what we do.
About Mary, By Karl: I am very lucky to have Mary in my life. She is very energetic and has a great sense of humor. It is great to hear her laugh and see her planning – night-outs, trips, or our life. Mary loves making lists and checking them off, and I like to tease her, but our household and my world would fall apart without her.
I truly loved Mary and our life before we had our first child, but seeing Mary taking care of our son melts my heart. She is a natural. Mary is an unbelievable loving and patient mother. She gives our son a beautiful home full of adventures and joy. I can’t wait to see Mary continue this with our future child.
About Karl, By Karl: I am curious about the world & like to explore, absorb and experience new things. I was born and raised in West-Germany. I completed my medical studies at the Free University of Berlin, which included one year of medical studies in France and electives in Africa. I was in training for thoracic cardiac surgery prior to moving to the United States to do research. After years of research, I decided to obtain my US medical license. Spending time with family is my number one priority; therefore, I opted to specialize in Radiology which allows tremendous flexibility. Growing up, I enjoyed sailing, skiing, school orchestra and Jazz band. Our son, Lukas, is a dual citizen and we are excited to expose him to his different roots. I speak only German to him and it is amazing how, at three years old, he understands both English and German. He is also learning Spanish in school. I am multi-lingual speaking German, English, French and a little Italian. I look forward to speaking German to our new addition as well as going to swimming lessons, music and gym class.
About Karl, By Mary: Karl is warm, kind, patient and thoughtful. My mother passed away before I met Karl. I think every day how much she would have loved him. Sometimes I believe she hand selected him for me. Karl is non-judgmental and accepting of others. When I first met Karl, one of his closest friends was 85 years old. I loved this about him. I fell in love with his caring disposition and ability to connect with all people. He is comfortable in any situation and makes others comfortable around him. Fatherhood came naturally to him. The same qualities that make him a wonderful person and husband make him a great father. He is loving and supportive. We both want our children to grow up in a supportive environment where they can flourish in whatever they choose.
Our Loved Ones
Meet Our Son, Lukas: Lukas makes wishes at every fountain and pond for a sibling. He is excited about growing our family. Lukas went from crawling to running. Every day after school, he wants to run. He ran his first official half mile race at 18 months! During the race, he stopped a few times to look at birds and dogs, but he finished. He also loves to pretend he is rescuing animals along the way.
Our Family and Friends, by Mary: We have very close relationships with our parents and siblings. Both our mothers, Jo (deceased) and Erika, are very similar. Jo and Erika are strong, independent women, while very nurturing and loving. We share the same special relationship with our mothers. I am very lucky to have Erika as a mother in law. Erika comes to stay with us for months at a time. Our fathers are similar as well…very intelligent and funny. Pete, my father, is a retired attorney and Karl’s father, Karlheinz, is a retired cardiologist. They are very present in Lukas’s life and are wonderful grandfathers.
Karl has one sister, Ulrike, who has two children, Johann and Julianne. I have one sister, Nancy, who has one son, Ryan, and one brother, Cliff, who has no children. We visit Germany and Karl’s parents will visit us at least twice a year and stay for a few months at a time. My father lives in Florida and visits every few months and we visit him at least twice a year.
Our Home and Thoughts on Parenting
Our Home: We live in a wonderful small safe community in Eastern Pennsylvania where we can walk to parks, library, restaurants and an ice cream shop. We are fortunate to live in a town close to a metropolitan city where we can enjoy cultural events.
Our school district is one of the best in the state. When we relocated, we based our decision where to live on where we would send Lukas to preschool. We absolutely love it, and more importantly, as does Lukas. We also found a German School where Lukas attends a playgroup on Saturdays. In the German playgroup, Lukas meets others that are also being raised in a similar environment.
Our Dogs: We rescued Kassie and Eli, but at different times and for different reasons. Mary rescued Kassie for her mother. Unfortunately, her mother passed away a year after she got Kassie. Mary now says it was Kassie who rescued Mary as Kassie was there for her during a tough time. Mary and her mother were very close. Karl rescued Eli when he was new to town and wanted some four legged companionship. Kassie is now 12 and Eli is now 7. They enjoy a backyard and a big front porch where they love to sit and watch the squirrels. They are both incredible with Lukas and have been since we brought him home.
In Closing: We are excited about growing our family and hope you will consider us. We will make it our life’s purpose to ensure your child is safe and happy with us. We will provide the foundation and environment for your child to grow into a self-assured, confident and independent person.