Samantha

Dear Birthmother

Hi! Hola! I’m Samantha in North Carolina. People call me Sam or Samantha, I like both so you pick which one!

Let me first say that I really admire your strength and courage for considering adoption. You must be an incredible and strong person – I don’t know you yet, but I already admire you.

There is nothing I want more in the world than to be a mother, to love and nurture a little one, to show him or her this wide world of wonder and possibility. I hope that going through an adoption brings you a world of possibilities, as well, and that we can help each other through this tough but ultimately good and rewarding thing called adoption.

I can promise you that I will provide a warm, vibrant, happy home for your child and that I will love your child with my whole heart. I am so excited that this is finally happening, I can’t wait to be a mom!

I look forward to meeting you and answering all of your questions. I hope that this profile is helpful to you.

Dear Birthmother

Here’s My Story

There are two things in this world that I love more than anything else – being surrounded by family and friends and … politics! I know, that may sound strange, but the passion of my life has been a quest to “save the world,” to do my part by working with politicians (and getting them elected) so that we can help make life better and happier for everyone.

But as much as I’ve loved politics and the good fight, I want to be a mom even more. School, politics, and life have taken me to amazing places—until moving to North Carolina, I lived in Huntington Beach, California and before that, San Diego, Vermont, Washington, DC, and even Hawaii. I’ve written speeches for the Mayor of Los Angeles, had cheese and crackers at the late Senator Ted Kennedy’s home, and driven the state of North Carolina to assist former President Clinton at a campaign event for Hillary. And now, I’m embarking on the greatest adventure of my life – motherhood.

My path isn’t exactly the path my parents took. They met in their early 20’s, fell in love, got married, got jobs, had children, bought a house, raised a family in a small town in New Jersey, and all these years later, they still live in that house and they are still in love. Though I’ve taken the road less traveled, they have always been proud of me and are especially excited and supportive of this next, most important phase!

For a long time, I shared my life with my boyfriend Ira and his twins, Mia and Cade, now 15. Being their “stepmom” brought me immeasurable joy and makes me want to be a mother even more.

Things I Love Doing in My Free Time:

  • Rowing – When it comes to exercise and getting outdoors, my first love is rowing. There is nothing like the feel of the oars entering the water and the boat gliding through the water – it’s magic. Rowing calms me, plus it’s a really good workout!
  • Reading – Whether it’s political articles, biographies, histories, or a good novel, is always a favorite of mine. And then there’s Twitter – it’s like yelling at the TV but someone is listening!
  • Biking is wonderful because you can do it alone, wherever you are, but it’s a great family activity, too. I also love to go on day hikes, whether back in Laguna along the beautiful Pacific coast or here in lush, green, and gorgeous North Carolina.
  • Rock Climbing at a gym is a great workout, challenging, and fun! And it’s never boring. I have to admit I need to get back into shape, but I’m looking forward to it.
Here’s My Story

A Warm and Loving Home

I grew up in a small town in New Jersey and spent summers with my grandmother in Los Angeles. My mom and dad still live in New Jersey, in the same house where I grew up, a home that always has the door open and welcomes all comers.

California is where my heart is, but it was time for a change so I recently moved to North Carolina – and I am really enjoying my new home! My house in Huntington Beach was a little bit university vibe and a little bit surf vibe. I’ve brought the books and Persian rugs to NC, and I’m looking forward to adding the playful things that come with a family. I am also excited to start having visitors so that I can again fill my home with the vibrancy and love I had in Huntington Beach and that I remember from my childhood home.

North Carolina is a wonderful place to raise children—sports, music festivals, parks, galleries, mountains, lakes, and even beaches not too far away. The schools in Apex are great and there is a strong sense of community. My parents are just a long-weekend away, and my sister Gillian lives near them in Brooklyn with her husband. Gillian and I are very close – she’s my hero because she has always been there for me. She can’t wait to be an aunt!

My favorite holiday is Christmas…I love bringing fresh evergreens into the house, making it smell like pine, baking Christmas cookies with an old recipe from my childhood, decorating the tree with my Vermont ornaments and little white lights, eating popcorn with hot chocolate on movie nights, and creating an enormous mound of gifts under the sparkling tree.

 

A Warm and Loving Home

My Thoughts on Parenting

I can’t wait to teach my future child all about music and books and mountains and the ocean, all about love and friendship and trust and loyalty, about kindness and justice and the strength that comes from being honest and doing what is right. I believe that we are all in this together, that we should all participate in our democracy and do our part to make this world, our country, and our communities better.

I was brought up to believe that a good education is the foundation for a life of understanding and fulfillment, a life that is interesting and rewarding. The Kennedy children were quizzed and challenged to debate ideas at their dinner table, I think that with a foundation like that, some nurturing, some structure, and a good dose of fun a child’s talents will grow and blossom.

I hope to provide a warm, loving home filled with music and sports and knowledge and laughter…and a good bedtime routine!

Meet Peanut & Squeaks: I had never thought of myself as a cat person, but Squeaks and Peanut are adorable! They are great with children and very gentle.

First it was Squeaks. She is super attentive if you’re ever not feeling well and a good hunter which works out well because I really don’t like bugs!

Peanut was the runt of the litter. As a tiny kitten he was pretty much the fluffiest, cutest thing you’ve ever seen. Peanut is soft as can be and lucky for me, he loves to cuddle!

 

My Thoughts on Parenting

My Family

For 8 years I was blessed to be a stepmom. I lived with my ex-boyfriend and his two wonderful children, a twin boy and girl. They were 5 1/2 the first time I made them a peanut butter & jelly sandwich and nearly 14 when their father and I split. I tucked them in at night, read them stories, helped them with homework, took them to museums, went to their school events, and attended their soccer and football games. We played at the beach and the park, played laser tag in the yard and board games on rainy days, took blankets into the trampoline for star-gazing, and had picnics in front of the TV when we watched movies.

Being a second mom to the kids made me incredibly happy, and I can’t wait to be a mom again.

My Work: I am passionate about my work. I used to work in politics – I worked for the Mayor of Los Angeles and on political campaigns at the city, state, and federal level. I loved it. But it wasn’t helping me start a family, so now I am Executive Director of a new professional association for people who teach empowerment self-defense.

Empowerment self-defense, otherwise known as ESD, is a system of violence prevention that teaches students situational awareness, self-awareness, how to navigate power relationships, minimize abuse, and defend themselves. It teaches that everyone has a right to protect themselves.

Our organization values family-work balance and allows for the unpredictability of parenthood and life, so I will have time off for school plays, sick kids, and the unexpected. I am currently working from home.

A Few of My Favorites:

  • Favorite TV Show/Character: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Superman, West Wing
  • Favorite Food: Pizza (especially in New Jersey) and Enchiladas (especially in San Diego)
  • Favorite Sports Team: Chicago Cubs (best fans, great sportsmanship, and Dad’s loved them since childhood)
  • Favorite Musical Artist: Beatles, Led Zeppelin, Pearl Jam, Eric Church, Zac Brown Band, Lee Brice
  • Favorite Reading Material: Political books & magazines, kids’ books (one of my favorites is the Aru Shah series)

In Closing: Thank you for taking the time to learn about me. The first moment I held my friend’s newborn baby, I was in love. I spent a lot of time with my friend changing diapers, rocking her daughter to sleep, and learning about joys and challenges of motherhood. I knew there was a chance I couldn’t have a child of my own, so that experience was life-changing. The love I felt led me here.

I can imagine how scary this all must be … it’s a little scary for me, too! I really admire your courage and kindness in considering adoption. I like the idea of open adoption because I believe the more people loving a child, the better. And I think that giving a child the opportunity to learn where they come from can help them lead a more fulfilling life. I promise to give your child a life filled with love and warmth and opportunity. Wonder Woman might be able to repel bullets with her bracelets and possess superhuman strength, but with the strength it takes to consider adoption, she’s got nothing on you.

Thank you for reading my profile and for considering me as an adoptive parent!

 

 

My Family