Besides making the decision to place your child for adoption, choosing an adoptive family or parent for your child can be one of the most difficult decisions to make.
Some birth mothers base their decision on their own interests and hobbies (if they love nature, they may want a family who loves to be outdoors). Other birth mothers might choose adoptive parents based on their ideal family.
It is important that a birth mother feel good about the adoptive parents she chooses. As a birth mother, you should read parent profiles and look at the pictures of the adoptive parents. Ask your adoption caseworker any questions you may have about your favorite adoption profiles. Make sure that what you envision in your adoption plan (some examples might be talking on the phone during the pregnancy, meeting in person, picture and letter exchange after placement) matches that of the adoptive parent(s), as well.
Most birth mothers feel a sense of calmness – even excitement – when they know they have chosen the right adoptive family for their child.
Adoption can be a difficult process, but knowing that you are placing your child with an adoptive family or parent who you have personally chosen can make all of the difference in your overall adoption experience.