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Will I Regret Placing My Baby for Adoption?

Deciding whether to place your baby for adoption is one of the hardest choices that any birth mom must make. Even though there are many different options, it’s important to try and make the choice that is best for your baby. A lot of birth moms ask themselves, “Will I regret this decision?” It’s totally normal for this question to come up. To help make sure you completely understand and accept your decision, consider these steps during your decision process.

Think About Why You’re Choosing Adoption

The biggest part of deciding to place your baby up for adoption is to know why you’re thinking about putting your baby up for adoption.

Consider why you are thinking about adoption, considering every single part of the process. Think about what route would be the best for not only your baby but also for you. Figure out where you want your life to go for the next few years. Also, think about what you want for your baby, and what option lets both of you achieve these things.

Take Your Time

There’s no need to speed through your decision. Taking your time will help you feel comfortable no matter what option you chose, as well as comfortable with the people helping you through this challenging time. Though you need people who respond to your questions quickly, your decision doesn’t need to be made overnight. So, make sure you have an adoption service that keeps you comfortable every step of the way.

Talk to Other Birth Moms About Their Journey

Placing a baby up for adoption is a very brave choice, but it usually comes with a lot of questions, some of which can only be answered by other birth moms. Joining a support group or reading firsthand accounts online, can help you through the emotional journey by letting you know what others have experienced. Sometimes, birth mothers’ concerns can be about their baby’s health, or their own feelings right after birth. For other moms, their concerns may be more about the baby’s long-term school and job options. No matter what the concern, hearing another mom talk about her experience with adoption can be very helpful. It’s great how much hearing someone else’s story can help you.

What Are the Pros And Cons?

Try making an actual list that has all the pros and cons of each choice. Since no decision that is ever 100% positive, but if you understand the good and bad that comes from every choice, it may be easier to feel comfortable with your decision.
Choose the Level of Openness You’re Comfortable With
During the adoption process, you get to decide how much contact you have with your baby after placing. The ability to choose how involved you are in your baby’s life can help you feel more comfortable with your choice. Also, you can even change your involvement as you need to during different times in your life.

For some moms, just knowing their baby is safe is enough. But, for some, they may worry about regretting their choice. When you take the time to get all the information you need, while following your instincts about what’s best for both of you, you’re more likely to not regret your choice.

At Adoption Planners, we are dedicated to helping you make the best decision for you and your baby. With 24/7 support, counseling, adoption planning and expenses paid, we are here for you every step of the way.

Text “PLAN” to 990-00 or Call (877) 903-7526 for immediate support.

Why Birth Mothers Choose Adoption

A recent study showed what is important to a woman who is trying to decide if adoption is the right choice for her. This, of course, can be a difficult choice to make.

95% of birth mothers found that being able to select the adoptive parents for her child to be most important. Paired with that is being able to talk and email with, as well as meet the adoptive family prior to the birth of the baby.

Birth mothers also felt having access to counseling and receiving updates, such as pictures and letters, from the adoptive parents as next important. Being able to create an adoption plan that makes a birth mother feel comfortable is also of great importance.

Making sure that a birth mother feels good about the family she is placing with, that she can get to ask them any questions she has and can meet with a counselor following the placement can truly help a birth mother to feel good about choosing adoption for her child.

Choosing an Adoptive Family

Besides making the decision to place your child for adoption, choosing an adoptive family or parent for your child can be one of the most difficult decisions to make.

Some birth mothers base their decision on their own interests and hobbies (if they love nature, they may want a family who loves to be outdoors). Other birth mothers might choose adoptive parents based on their ideal family.

It is important that a birth mother feel good about the adoptive parents she chooses. As a birth mother, you should read parent profiles and look at the pictures of the adoptive parents.  Ask your adoption caseworker any questions you may have about your favorite adoption profiles. Make sure that what you envision in your adoption plan (some examples might be talking on the phone during the pregnancy, meeting in person, picture and letter exchange after placement) matches that of the adoptive parent(s), as well.

Most birth mothers feel a sense of calmness – even excitement – when they know they have chosen the right adoptive family for their child.

Adoption can be a difficult process, but knowing that you are placing your child with an adoptive family or parent who you have personally chosen can make all of the difference in your overall adoption experience.